You scan through your old photos, looking at how much you’ve changed since your 12th birthday and remembering the days when tattoo chokers and paisley bandanas ‘shot’ up your ‘fashion game’ (well, at least in my case…). Flicking through the photos you start to accumulate flashbacks of embarrassing moments, classroom crushes and the time you were convinced fame was calling for you. However, like most of us, you will also remember the struggles you went through; the battle of loving yourself.
Our animalistic traits are primarily responsible for our desire to attain beauty. We see it across the animal kingdom, a well known example are peacocks fluttering their brightly coloured feathers in order to attract a mate. Amongst humans, the culture of seeking validation has grown rapidly since the introduction of social apps e.g. twitter, instagram and so on. They are in an essence, attracting validation from others in order to give themselves certainty and solidity that they are indeed attractive. It could be argued that this is a form of an addiction, the constant need to be approved by others rather than yourself. Furthermore, it could be said that this has stemmed from deep rooted issues that can be traced back a primary source/s. Expanding on that point, there might have been a time in your life where you saw yourself reflecting the life of someone else who you deemed to be more attractive, popular, loved etc… You then begin to use that individual as your blueprint, stripping away the layers of you.
You are worthy of self-praise, self-affection and self-admiration. Every flaw you see amplifies your distinctive beauty and adds to your mysticism. Go ahead and take that selfie, gaze at your omnipotent beauty that vibrates from your core. Self love is a battle, you are not expected to chant ‘I love myself’ everyday because you are entitled to feel down. Insecurity is nothing to be ashamed of, it reminds you that you will rise again and tread over its ashes, like the rebirth of a Phoenix.
Love and light,